Learning Your Lessons when it comes to Dating

One of the biggest mistakes people make in dating is not learning from their mistakes. They behave stubbornly, selfishly, they date the wrong type of person, they try to control the relationship too much, they get into bed too quickly or withhold sex too much, they nitpick every detail, they try and change their partner instead of accepting who they are...

But if they're not recognizing what they did wrong then they never learn from their mistakes.

Here is 3 Examples...

In 2000 I dated a young woman who was essentially browsing the local cuisine. She and I broke up and got back together 17 times in a period of less than a week. It took me years to later realize I was basically just sampling the cuisine too. She and I were too different, like fire and water. The lessons? #1. Don't waste your time if you're just browsing and #2. Don't waste your time with people who are quickly and obviously your opposite. Opposites may attract, but they don't make good lovers.

In 2001 a young woman moved in with me after less than a month. She later turned to be childish, spoiled rotten and unemployed. I quickly discovered I lacked the patience to live with someone who made me miserable and drained my financial resources. Lessons Learned? Avoid spoiled rotten gold diggers.

In 2004 I met a woman who was studying French and she became interested in me because I spoke French (C'est un beau langage!), however my advances were wasted on her because she basically just wanted free French lessons. Lessons Learned? Look for the clues that this person just wants to be friends.

The point I am making here is that you have to learn from your mistakes so you can avoid making the same mistakes over again. Older and wiser, I find my relationships last a lot longer and I have less worries about running into incompatible people because I am better at screening them for faults.