Building Stronger Relationships Towards LOVE

Want to build a stronger and healthier relationship? Follow the following tips and you will find you both develop feelings of love faster and are more open about communicating.

1. Relax Optimistically

Having a relax mind about the person with whom you are interested in relationship will help you to build a strong trust and relationship. When you feel comfortable with others, then they will feel comfortable with you. If you are interested in relationship don’t be nervous because a nervous person can’t achive his destiny and the partner will easily sense that and they will withdraw from relationships.

It is common when we meet a online friend in real world, but have a brighten face which will attract the friend you are meeting and also persons around. In this world each and every person are interested in meeting other singles who are having fun and joy. That is the reason why we are trying to make friendship and relationship. When you are meeting a long lost friend your face will glow in joy and shine like a sun because the friend you’re meeting is your best friend. When you have that face to the new friend they will feel happy and comfortable to have a friendship or relationship with you. Here I would like to introduce a secret to you for getting a brighten face.

SMILE, nothing can beat a smile, it make your face to glow in joy. We are interested to meet a girl/ guy who is has a smile in his face. We won’t turn to a person who don’t know how to smile. So smile is a biggest way to get an instant glow in your face and you will get relaxed in mind too. When your smile reciprocates by partner then your heart will smile and that gives a bonding with the partner you are having relationship.

2. Listen Deeply

Relaxing your mind and smileing gives a start to build trust with each other but when you listen to the words and messages of your partner then it will create unexplainable joy to the heart of your friend or partner. Share their thoughts by listening to their words.

Allow them to speak, In a successful relationship between any two persons there will be a lot of communication and sharing. Before building trust no person will tell their secrets but when you listen to them with heart then they will open their heart wide for accommodating you into that place. Listening creates an emotional feelings to person who is communicating. Friendship and relationships are tied with a bond of emotion not with a bond of appearance.

Listen to your partner or friend with heart, listen deeply with emotional feeling. You will listen carefully when you place yourself in the place of your partner. Feel their emotions and the body psotures. Body language reveals a lot of messages to the outside world. There is a lot of books available in bookstores which teach you the body language.

When you feel your partner is in need offer a hand of help, which makes your bonds strong with each other. Friendship and relationship (An affair with your love) is beyond parenting. You can’t share some secrets with your parents but with your friend. This kind of sharing will come when they feel comfortable and trust on you. To get this relationship and friendship you need to listen carefully.

3. Feel Empathetically

As I said earlier feeling or seeing the other person’s perspective without seeing your own belief is empathetic. In friendship or relationship you must see the perspective point of the person who is sharing the problem rather than your own point. It leads to two way communication between you both. When you feel their mistakes as yours then there will be the birth for solutions.

When your partner realize that you know the mistakes of them and still you are respecting them and sharing excitement during their victory, encouragement and support during their difficulty will build trust on you because you are looking into the person’s heart, not looking into mistakes. If you are not at all looking into mistakes of other person, it will lead you to difficulty. Rather correct them when they are doing small mistakes and forget that mistakes, this gives a double times trust on you because you are trying to correct the person but not leaving the person. Empathy will build a strong relationship and friendship with trust.

4. Respond Carefully

Emotions create good and also bad.

Emotionally motivated persons will do good and wrongs because they relates everything with emotions. When you are emotionally charged choose your words correctly. If you’re not correct in your words then the trust you built till that moment will shatter into pieces which is unrecoverable. So choose your words and emotions carefully.

Showing your emotions without understanding the other person mood will also create problems, so understand the person’s mood and needs. As I said words can build or destroy trust on you. When they are sad make them to come up by your words, which will build trust, but when they are happy and you speak about their past mistakes without intention will destroy trust on you immediately.

Before responding to a question listen deeply and analyze them deeply in your heart. Reply them with your view ans solution back to them carefully. When you respond back to them use their words rather than your words which will create an feeling that you have listened their words and problems which again gives trust on you.

5. Compliment Them

Compliment, a small word which does miracles. None in this world hates compliment because it gives joy to your heart that they appreciate us for our work. Compliment them whenever possible. Appreciating a person is like walking on top of a knife. When you over-compliment them they will think as you are teasing thme rather than appreciating their work, which will back fire you. So compliment them with some limit. Share their joy and sarrows with you also. A response can be encouraging or discouraging, but a limited compliment will encourage others and they get trust on you. Guys you can try with a girl with following words ” Hey _____( fill with that person name), You look gorgeous and stunning.”, it may be true or false but that girl with whom you are trying will like you. And gals you try the same with guys, guys will follow you and do anything for you people. This is the power of compliment. Each and every person loves compliment.

6. Synchronize Cooperatively


Hmmm what is synchronizing, A true and trusting friendship and relationship will happen when both friends interest and activities lies in same frequency. if you act like your partner and if they act like your activities then it creates a strong bond of friendship or relationship because everyone want to mate with those have their interest. When two same interest collides there will be a discussion and fun. if two opposite interest collides there will be a major accident happens. When two interest or views meet each other then there will be another view which will be a mix of both and we share our picture on it. Rachel and john are friends who have same interest of rock music, then they will share music first then they share their friendship, same time if Rachel has a rock music interest and John has a classical music interest they can’t share music rather they share wrongs and criticism.

Synchronizing your partner's interest is more important. Not every human is having same interest, you need to find common interest of your partner and try to develop with that. There is a possibility of sharing friendship with two different interest people. In this case there both never share their own interest rather they try to learn their partners interest which also gives a strong bonding, because you are trying to synchronize with your partner interest. Relationship require a cooperative action to survive in the minds. When you are not cooperative they never feel comfortable with you which is the base of creating strong relationships.

When relationships mature, then the values of the couple also changes. You need to be flexible with your partner by understanding the changes and goals. Without cooperative actions a relationship will not survive for a long time.

7. Act Authentically

Authentically means acting with your values. In simple words Be Yourself. When you are not like yourself. being yourself is not by appearance but by heart. Be yourself like when you are without no one. Don’t create any false appearance with others which will not create a trusting bond in your relationship and it never helps your relationship in any way. False face will not survive for a long time, for making it to survive you need to do a lot wrongs which tells you that you are not true in your friendship or relationship.

When you act like yourself you are honest to yourself and also to others which will never make you as wrong rather it gives you respect among others. Say what you can do and do what you say, be a man of words. When you are standing on your words your partner will trust you and your words. Be clear in your relationship, and find what your partner needs from your relationships. This will give you a clear mind rather than a confused mind. when you are clear by your mind you will feel relaxed and comfortable in your relationship.

8. Acknowledge Generously

When you need relationship look positive qualities of others rather than looking bad qualities. Acknowledgement from another person will register that person in brain or mind for a long time. That figure will not forget or diminish in the mind. Acknowledge them for their good qualities, Don’t overlook bad qualities of others.

Show your gratitude and encouragement by words and actions to your partner. Encourage them when they are in difficulties, support them when they are in need, These are all some kind of acknowledging problems of them and providing hands for help. When heart registers us as we are there for helping at anytime heart never feel depressed rather it shares its problem like river of flood. Sharing problems comes only after your relationship is built with strong base and trust.

To start strong relationship the above mentioned are like the tip of an iceberg. There is a lot of qualities which we need to find ourselves because they differ from each person to person. To start take a piece of paper and write down all your qualities whether good or bad, check yourself which can be used. By doing this you will find yourself which brings your inner-self. When your inner-self is out you can validate yourself into relationship you want.

5 Tips to Become a Lady Magnet

Are you interested in attracting women like magnets in your singles life?

Have you ever wondered how Bad Boys manage to attract women so easily by behaving like jerks?

Its because women's brains are hard-wired to be attracted to Alpha-Males - and thus specific behaviour causes women to be instantly attracted to any man who exhibits Bad Boy / Alpha Male traits.

Here's how...

1: Never Settle for Just Any Woman

The biggest mistake you can possibly make in any relationship is to settle for whatever woman comes along for fear you can’t do any better than what you have! Doing this will prevent you from ever finding the woman you are truly meant to be with. It is difficult to take a leap of faith, especially in matters of the heart, but settling to be with a woman that doesn’t “do it for you” is a HUGE mistake…for you both! Do NOT settle for just any woman hold out for someone that you really connect with and live the life of your dreams! Believe it or not, women admire men who know what they want and won’t settle for anything less. It is a major turn on!

2: Apply the Laws of Attraction

This subject has been poked, prodded, turned upside down and inside out. It is contained within every magazine and book and research paper on the subject of love that you will ever run across. As a relationship expert myself, I have an entire wall of books dedicated to this subject alone, and more books and articles and theories are created every day around the globe on the differences between men and women regarding their particular triggers for attraction. It is right under your nose, every day, everywhere…on TV, out in public, you name the place…it’s right there staring you down! Yet unbelievably, there are STILL people who are completely clueless about the Laws of Attraction.
Now, this is not to say that the Laws of Attraction are good or right or even tolerable at times. But, there are certain inalienable truths about attraction that you need to know and understand if you desire to become successful in any romantic relationship.

What are the Laws of Attraction? Simply put, Men and Woman are polar opposites when it comes to attraction. Men initially feel sexual attraction based upon a woman’s physical appearance, which then leads them into a desire for a relationship. But, women are initially attracted to a man’s qualities. Sure, women will admire a man’s looks, but that doesn’t lead them into a desire for a relationship with him. It’s when a man exhibits confidence in his body language and communication–regardless of his looks–that women feel a powerful sexual attraction that over shadows the man’s physical attributes.

3: Don’t Be Too Nice

Of course, everyone knows that being “nice” is considered socially acceptable in the world. But, women do not choose a lover based upon how nice they may be – that’s how they choose their friends. Being “NICE” just isn’t what ignites the flames of passion. What does ignite the flames? Attraction. What is attractive? Confidence in one’s self! Use positive body language, take meaningful actions, and be your genuine self without regard to what others may think of you. This doesn’t mean you should act like a jerk, because no one likes a jerk either. It simply means that in order to attract a woman, you MUST be confident in yourself.

4: Convincing a Woman To Like You is a Big No-No!

Do not waste any of your valuable time trying to convince a woman that doesn’t appear interested in you romantically that you are the person they are meant to be with. It will NEVER work, and in fact, may backfire on you in a most embarrassing way. Why is this? Because you can’t change the way a person “feels.” You can try to understand and you can offer alternative points of view, but you cannot change their feelings. To make matters worse, when faced with the knowledge that a woman doesn’t “feel” attracted to them, some men often take ridiculous action to convince them otherwise-they will relentlessly pursue the woman without regard for her lack of “feelings.” Spare yourself this tragedy and move on to the next lady in line, who might just “feel” attracted to you-an absolute necessity to a fulfilling relationship!

 5: Seeking Her Approval is a Waste of Time

It is completely adverse to human nature for a woman to desire a man who seems to actively pursue her approval. Psychologically, it instills in a woman’s mind that the man is automatically not worthy of her attention, and no matter what you do to gain the woman’s approval…you will always be considered less than worthy. ALWAYS! The simple truth is that you will lack the necessary confidence in yourself in order to succeed in gaining the attraction you seek. Now, this does not mean you should completely ignore a woman’s approval-just that, instead, you need to gain it through self confidence. NOT by seeking her approval of you!

How to Find Happiness and True Love

Can you find happiness and true love in a relationship?

Are you looking for a partner to make you happy or complete you?

Is your relationship less than satisfactory and you are wondering how to improve it?

Often we find it impossible to meet our dream guy or find happiness with a man simply because we are looking in the wrong place.

When we look for love, we proceed to look for someone whom we find loveable. Then we try to train him to be the person that we want him to be – a person whom we can continue to love.

How do we do this? Usually, by creating a scene and letting him know how upset we are when he doesn’t behave as we wish. By this he learns that when he exhibits this behaviour we won’t be pleased and we are certainly going to let him know it in the future.

If he’s the type of guy that wants to make us happy, then he stops doing it. Or perhaps he just goes underground and does it in secret next time. Either way, he is probably going to feel some resentment towards us.

When our guy is loveable i.e. he is doing what we want and acting in accordance with our wishes and beliefs, then we find it easy to love him. But there are also the times that we find this difficult. When he is not being loveable, we may find ourselves feeling critical of him or even harbouring unpleasant negative feelings. We may even want him to suffer, because after all, he has made us suffer, hasn’t he?

So, how do we turn this less than satisfactory situation into true love and happiness? Well the first step is realising that a man cannot make you happy, no matter how much he wants to or you want him to. Whilst you will feel happiness with your partner at times, another person will never complete you. You see, happiness is a state of mind and comes from within.

You can see this by considering how you may react to the same situation depending on how you feel at the time. Imagine your man comes home from work and he has had a bad day. You ask him to take out the garbage and he completely ignores you. As he slumps in the chair in front of the TV you can see that he is feeling bad and you rush over to help soothe his feelings.

Now, the same thing happens on another day. Only this time you’ve had a bad day yourself. This time, you were hoping for some comfort from him. When he ignores you, you feel neglected and unloved. You let him know how you feel and an argument ensues. Communication breaks down and the rest of the evening is ruined.

So, now we have established that a man is not able to make us happy. Happiness comes from within and is about you making the choice to be happy despite your external circumstances.

It is about taking responsibility for your own feelings and not expecting your man to conform to everything that you want. It is not about the perfect relationship but about focusing on the positives in the relationship rather than the negatives.

It is very hard to love someone else unless you love yourself first. This is because the way you love your man is a reflection of your own needs and beliefs around love and how it should or shouldn’t be.

Unconditional acceptance of yourself as well as your partner is the only way to find unconditional love in your life. Of course, this doesn’t mean that you should put up with a partner who treats you badly.

So, yes you can find happiness in a relationship. But only if you are happy on your own first. If you are looking for love then you must start by loving yourself. Unless you can do this you will never be able to allow love in fully.

You must take responsibility for your own happiness by examining your own beliefs and reactions and how they serve you. And you must accept your man and allow him to be the person he is. Only when all these things come together with a man who loves you and wants to make you happy will you be able to say that you have found true love.