Love, Dating and Long Distance Relationships

I hate long distance relationships.

They are almost always doomed from the beginning. The ones that do last are only because the couple makes a deliberate effort to see each other whenever possible and stay in daily communication.

Here is some handy tips / info when having a long distance relationship.

#1. You have to sincerely like / love the person. If you're not sure about them then you're just wasting your time and theirs.

#2. You have to trust them. This means no checking up on them, no being suspicious all the time, just let them be and trust that they are doing the same.

#3. You have to know yourself. Can you wait for love? Are you patient enough? If you're not the patient type then you are just fooling yourself.

#4. Are there any other barriers to the relationship apart from just distance? Watch for dealbreakers but also look to make compromises if you feel the relationship is worth it.

#5. When you are together focus on doing fun activities you both enjoy.

#6. Be virtuous. Don't be selfish, greedy or lazy. Let your lover bring out the best in you.

#7. Set a date time to call on the phone, use Skype, Google Phone or chat online. This is effectively the long distance version of dating.

#8. Write and send letters via snail mail. Send along small gifts and personal momentos.

#9. Don't try to buy the other person's affection by send them outrageously expensive gifts. They won't be impressed. A wooden locket you carved yourself is more meaningful than a gold one.

#10. Eventually you will want to make the trip to visit each other. Let it be a mutual decision.

#11. Offer to stay in a hotel upon visiting.

#12. Don't expect sex if its your very first meeting.

#13. Don't be pushy or overly dramatic. That is creepy. Avoid anything remotely creepy. Stick to being patient with a dose of humour and wit.

#14. Always leave the other person wanting more.

If you rush things in any relationship don't be surprised if it blows up in your face.

In the beginning...

This new blog, titled True Love Bites, will be dedicated towards dispensing relationship advice, often with some of my own past experiences used as examples.

In part this blog is also a sequel to my other blog The Male Brain at Work which focused both on relationships and also on the different / similar roles played by men and women in society and even dipped into topics surrounding sexuality, advertising and male dominated culture.

As a result I will be cutting back on how often I post on my old blog because any time I run into a relationship topic in my writing it will be posted here instead and the old blog will become more dedicated towards studying the social interactions / roles played by the warring / loving sexes.

True Love Bites will be focusing solely on relationships. Nothing else. I might mention sex in passing, but we won't go into great detail about it. It won't be censored out, but it will be left a bit blurry and vague. Got it?

As part of my first tasks for this blog I am going to write a fresh relationship article to get the ball rolling.